Over Winter Break

It’s been a while since we’ve posted, but hopefully long gaps like this won’t happen again.

These last few months have been quite eventful, though! With Winter Break beginning in Mid-January, Bethany had a few months off to relax and get caught up in her lesson planning and other interests. I’ve begun working on a large web application.

But the real fun came with the celebrations! During this time frame, not only did the Spring Festival/Chinese New Year take place, but it was immediately followed by the lantern festival. One thing we’ve learned is that very few can throw a festival the way the Chinese do! During this 2 week span, many businesses shut down for the festival. Fireworks were shot off nearly continuously during these holidays, downtown hosted parades and displays, and everyone showed their red pride!

Bethany even got in on the action by launching a lantern of her own!

This “Holiday Season” (mid January through February, from a Chinese perspective) was an important reminder that it’s OK to take a break. In many ways, the school calendar forced us to take that break. When your primary outreach are students of English, it’s difficult to outreach when they are not around.

We did get to build on some friendships over the Break, and had some good conversations. We pray that these conversations will continue as things pick back up.

This past week, classes started back up at Bethany’s college. With it came the roaring up of businesses and activities around town. Obviously, this includes the return of English speaking students. We hope this semester is eventful and full of great conversations! With Lint in place, and Easter right around the corner, it’s a great opportunity to make these conversations happen!

Technology, Creativity, and Worship

One of my favorite parts of January is the Consumer Electronics Show (CES). This international show of all things tech showcases most of all the latest and greatest things that are being developed. Some of these may be mere novelty product that’ll never find their way onto the store shelves. Many of them will go though multiple revisions before officially launched, and may not look much like they do at the CES. Yet, all of these products showcase the human creativity that God has placed in each of us.
After all, creativity essential to worship, and technology has been part of that process all the way through the ages. Whether it’s organizing words on a page to be repeated later on, crafting metal into precise horns, harps, and other musical instruments, constructing places of worship, creating stained-glass windows to share the Bible with those who could not read or understand Latin, using modern sound equipment…. It’s all worship, all heavy in creativity, and all requires technology.

But it goes much further than this. Take it back to the very beginning. What were the first two jobs given to Adam? To tend to the garden (Genesis 2:15) and to name the animals (Genesis 2:19-20). Before the fall of man, God commanded Adam to create; to build upon the very creation that God had given him.

Later on in the Old Testament, we see technology and engineering at work with building of alters. God commands Noah to build a massive ship. Then the creation of the Tabernacle, and of course the Temple is later constructed. Technology used in the creative forms of worship to God.

Lastly, we see John’s depiction of the New Jerusalem (Rev 21:9-27). A city with a wall, gates, roads of gold, foundations. All of these things came into existance (from a human standpoint) through technology. Why not have a garden come down from heaven like in the beginning? Why a city? God obviously embraces technology in the worship process as He places it in His everlasting dwelling on Earth.

Sure, technology can be used for negative and even evil actions, but so can any object. The wood that God created can be used to build a hospital or to beat a man. The actions are what is evil, not the stuff. Objects don’t have the capability to be good or evil. Does a knife get to choose whether it serves hungry children in an orphanage meal after meal, or if it is used to stab someone? No, it simply exists for the purpose of the person holding it. Does a brick get to choose if it is used to shelter the homeless or used as a weapon? No, it simply exists.

Technology itself should never be blamed for the negative actions of humanity. Just because objects are placed together to create an object intended for malicious usage doesn’t mean the technology behind the abuse is inherently bad as well.

As I look at all the neat – if not nearly useless – stuff that has been created and showcased at the CES, I can’t help but wonder which of these will end up in an act of worship. Probably not the fork and spoon that records your eating habits to tell you to slow down. Maybe the neat tactile touch-screen. Could the 52″ flexible TV screen be used as part of worship? Is it NEEDED? No, but nearly all technology isn’t NEEDED. Buildings and chairs aren’t needed. Neither are roads or 200 feet thick walls that are 1,400 miles high. But I’m certainly not going to argue with how God creatively uses technology.

Redefining Missionary

It’s always interesting to me to see how people view the different roles of a Missionary. In the West, the view of a Missionary is often one where you have a white man enter a foreign land, stand on a corner, tell everyone how wrong they are and how he has all the answers, show how superior the West is, and create a group of native followers. To be honest, this view is arrogant, ridiculous, and awful.

Although we don’t “officially” hold the title of “Missionary,” Bethany and I certainly feel this title is appropriate to our work. It is our love of Christ that drew us to reach out to other parts of the world. It is the love of Christ that encouraged us to meet new people, develop relationships, and get involved in what is going on here in China. But how we share our faith must change from the stereotypical norm. (Bare with me – this may get a little long….)

Let me be clear: In no way are we “ashamed” of our faith. We are very open with the fact that we are Christians. We are very open to sharing ideas of the Bible. In China, none of this is illegal. What IS illegal in China is evangelism – or, more specifically, classic Western Evangelism.

So what this means is we are not allowed to walk up to random people and say, “Hey, do you know Jesus?” This means we are not allowed to stand on a street corner with a bull horn and shout at people to tell them they are going to Hell. This means we can not walk down the street and hand out tracts to people.

But, in all honesty, is this really all that bad?

I mean, when was the last time shouting at strangers on a street corner really brought them to Christ? To be honest, I have never found tracts to be all that effective either. How would you react if some stranger walked into your home, started telling you all the things you are doing wrong, and how you should change the way you live? Would you respect them? Would you listen? It was rare for Jesus to find a random stranger, tell that random stranger how to live, and then walk away from him. Why do we think we should be doing this?

The truth is that nearly all of Jesus’ ministering occurred personally and relationally. The few times we do see Jesus correct random strangers (eg. The Woman At The Well), he is coming to those people as a respected authority figure – people care what he has to say. More specifically, we see Jesus ministering in three different ways throughout the Gospels.

The first, and most popular among the West, is by teaching/preaching. His most famous example was the “Sermon On The Mount.” (Matthew 5-7) This is the method that we in the West tend to feel most comfortable with. It’s usually the least intrusive and least amount of responsibility for the teacher. People show up, they listen, they leave. You teach, and then you walk away. There’s little accountability, little responsibility, and little risk involved. Those who want to hear are already there to listen.

The second way Jesus ministered was by confrontation and calling people out. He challenged the religious leaders of the day – the Pharisees – as they tried to challenge Jesus’ authority on religious matters. Some people try to use this as the basis for classic Western “You’re all going to Hell” evangelism. But who was Jesus speaking to? The religious LEADERS – people who supposedly knew and followed God’s law. These people knew God’s Word. These were the people who went to church every week. These were the people who tithed every week, who prayed daily, who were called to represent and lead God’s people. These were the people Jesus called “sons of hell.” (Matthew 23:15) These were the people Jesus verbally smacked around.

Now, is it true that people are going to go to hell if they don’t know God? Yes. But how much good does it do to yell at sick people and tell them over and over they are sick? Everyone knows we’re messed up. It’s obvious to most people this world is broken. Screaming at them won’t help. The recent events in the US has reinforced that.

The last form of ministry Jesus did was relational. Arguably, this was his biggest form of ministry. Jesus had a way of accepting those who didn’t feel accepted – those who were told they weren’t good enough, or failed too many times, or didn’t deserve to be acknowledged. Those were the people we seemed to reach out to the most. And it was his love that brought them close to God – it’s what drew them in.

Zacchaeus was one of those people. He was a tax collector for the Roman Empire. Thus, he was hated by the Jews. Some say he was a JEWISH tax collector. Which would mean he was also a traitor among his own people. But then he had an encounter with Jesus (Luke 19). During this encounter, Jesus took note of Zacchaeus. Jesus simply said he was going to eat at Zacchaeus’ house (which would have been an honor in those days). How did Zacchaeus respond? With repentance! “Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount.” (V. 8) What did Jesus say or do to invoke such a response?

Love. Jesus showed love to people. That love typically shown through in the form of compassion and acceptance. He came across prostitutes, thieves, Jews, Samaritans, Romans, the rich, the poor, the lame, the blind, the sick, the outcasts, and so many others. He relationally accepted them all. He never let them stay where they were, but he accepted them nonetheless.

China is a relational culture. We have entered there culture – there home. My job isn’t to change their culture or their laws. My job is to bear the image of Christ. We are here not as authoritative figures, but as (hopefully) humble Americans seeking to make friends, build relationships, learn about them, teach English, and show God’s love through legal means. That is our goal.

It starts by creating relationships. That’s how friends are made. That’s how teaching and learning happens. That’s how God’s love is best seen. That’s how being a “missionary” starts.

Seeking Thankfulness

Last week I had the great joy of teaching my students about Thanksgiving. I told them Thanksgiving was an opportunity for Americans to realize how blessed (and not lucky) they are to have so many good things. At first my students all responded with the- they should be because they are all rich- look. Then as we dug deeper they were able to see how blessed they were too. We talked about having clean water, food to eat everyday, the ability to see a doctor, to sleep under a roof, to have shoes and so on. Many of these students come from poorer country areas of China, they come from people who only in the past 20 years even had some of these things for themselves. They know people who don’t have, they know that there are areas in China where people don’t have clean water or medical care. Still consumerism- being fashionable, having cool phones, and all other kinds of materialism is still the goal for my students. They are encouraged everyday by their parents and their society to want more and more. So when we talked about this in class, I think this really hit home for many. They were quiet and thoughtful when we discussed what it means to be blessed.

Then after having this serious and deep discussion with my students about how Thanksgiving is about putting our lives in perspective and seeing how blessed we are- I taught them about Black Friday. They laughed at the contrast, but I didn’t really feel the irony until my friend Kristin shared a photo online commenting “Because only in America, people trample others for sales exactly one day after being thankful for what they already have”. Being a Black Friday fan myself I couldn’t help but pause and wonder if I myself was really thankful for the things that God had given me. I am thankful that God has given me this amazing adventure in China, fulfilling a calling I have been yearning to take part in for years. I am thankful for the huge apartment he has blessed us with and all of the opportunities he has given Bob and I both in China. Still there are days when I forget to be thankful. Instead I think about all my friend and family at home who I miss so much. I also think about the future, what I want in two years after I leave China.

It’s odd, to go from feeling amazingly blessed to thinking of my time in China like a prison sentence- “Oh when I get out, the things I will do.” How horrible is it that this is how I am letting myself think about what God is trying to do through me. Why do I feel this way? In the back of my mind there is this other dream, one that includes buying a big house, a garage full of power tools, and a safe place for my future children to grow up in. Heck, just the thoughts of having children itself. I want these things so bad that they have begun to color my mind. Being in China isn’t just a delay in achieving the American dream- it is the calling that gave me hope, it reminded me that I had a purpose and place in God’s work when I was ready to give up on myself. Still, I too have been sold the American dream so much, it’s hard for me now to deny it and find peace with the idea that I may never achieve it.

Thinking about all of this only keeps revealing to me how shallow my faith is. I can’t help but feel scared about the idea of being called away from my family and friends for the long term mission field. Or the idea of being pregnant and raising children in a foreign country, not being able to share and rely on my friends and family back home. While it’s hard for me to imagine a life without the comfort and security my home land provides, could I really turn God down if he asked me to stay? Can I really say sorry Jesus, I know you were tortured and died for me, but I would really like to raise my kids where life is more convenient and less scary.

For a long time, I thought that Bob and I had this whole American dream and materialism thing under control. We were on the Dave Ramsey plan, we were living on the “minimum”. I thought we were better than others about our emotional needs and attachment to material things, but moving to China showed me how wrong I really was. Giving away and selling all of the things I had worked so hard to gain, it was hard and emotional. I had let myself find so much security and comfort in the things I had filled my home with. I tried to face the truth, I tried to look my materialistic nature in the eye and say no more. I don’t want to be attached to material things this much ever again. Then I got on a plane to China and started thinking about the things I wanted when I got back to the states. The things were gone, but the disease was still there.

The truth of the matter is this, I don’t know where God is going to call Bob and I next, much less what he might call me to do tomorrow. All I know is that I want to be there with a big yes when he does call. As tempting as it maybe, God may never call me to have any of the things we idolize through the American Dream. Certainly, he will never call me to make the American Dream my dream. Instead, my dream needs to be seeking His dream for me. Whether that dream is giving up everything, or even if it is having a home in the US, what really matters is that I am willing on my part to be whatever he calls me to be. If I cling to desires, to which there is no guarantee that God will give me, then I am just setting myself up for heart break.

So I will keep trying. I will keep trying to be thankful for what God has given me in this moment without thinking about wanting more. I will try to keep my heart open to the things God wants to give me and what he wants to do with me. I will keep trying to live the Jesus dream and not the American one I was programmed by society to desire. I’m not going to lie, I will probably still hop on Trulia and Pintrest and think of someday, but I don’t want to harden my heart in the direction of material things, because in the end I will be the one who gets hurt by it.

Hoping and praying that the Lord continues to stretch and shape me and all of my friends.
With much love,
Bethany K

Learning Simplicity

Being “simple” is not something I’ve ever been good at. It’s hard for me to accept life as being simple. Learning is not simple. Language is not simple. Communication is not simple. Cultural perspectives and customs is not simple. And yet, here I am, striving to find simplicity.

Being in a new country, a new environment, a new culture… I NEED simplicity. Not necessarily simplicity in lifestyle (although some of that does occur), but more of a simplicity in life. It’s not so much a want as much as it’s becoming a necessity.

When we go to restaurants, we don’t have the luxury of asking for them to substitute one item in our dish for another, or for them to leave off a specific item from the dish. (Not that they would remove them anyways.) We still find it very difficult to communicate, and probably will find it to be difficult most, if not all, or our stay. We HAVE to keep it simple.

When we take a taxi to a specific location, and he gets us almost there, but doesn’t pull up exactly where we want him to, there is no complaining or fussing or urging him to continue that last 1% of the journey. We keep it simple (and are grateful that he understood us enough to get us THAT far!).

Of course, there are occasions where simplicity simply isn’t enough. After all, it’s a complex world no matter what country you are in! But we take those moments a little at a time. And we have made good friends who are gracious enough to help us through some of those moments. Sometimes those moments are paperwork. (Oh, the joys of bureaucracy!) Sometimes those moments are working with Internet or cell phone services. But even those can be simplified more so than what I am use to. I don’t have the luxury of being super picky regarding much of my technology. Sometimes things will only be 95% of where I want them to be. And I have to be accepting of that.

But living a life of simplicity isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In many ways, it’s kind of freeing. As long as I take care of my end of the paperwork process, I let our representative from the college worry about what department the paperwork needs to go to, or who needs to stamp what form where. I just follow along and relax. There’s nothing I can do or say to make the situation any better – I can’t even speak the language to understand or try! I have someone who is there to represent us and help us out. If I step back and let them do their thing, then I will typically be fine.

This is a culture that relies on other people. This is how they live, and what they expect. Even more so from someone who doesn’t speak their language. I can’t walk around being the “Independent American” very long. And that’s what are friends are here for – to help us out and enjoy doing life together.

Simplicity doesn’t mean “not frustrating.” Simplicity certainly has it’s frustrations. But it’s even more frustrating trying to achieve a complex task when simplicity would serve a nearly identical purpose with much less headaches. Battles must be chosen wisely, and should probably not be chosen often.

Simplicity can be tough to accept, but I think overall I’m going to like it.