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I'm your classic computer/gamer nerd with a love for following Christ.

Arriving, Riding, and Adjusting

So I’ve been in China now for almost a week! In this time, I’ve reunited with Bethany, explored Beijing, rode in a Chinese train, subway, bus, and taxi on multiple occasions, and spoken in several classes! I’ve seen several of the JiNing marketplaces, eaten at many of the restaurants, and even tried a couple bakeries! Sometimes I think to myself, “What have we gotten ourselves into!” But in the end, I can do nothing but smile, knowing that this is where God has placed us.

Out of all the differences between China and America, the one that stands out to me the most is the roadways. In China, the drivers are very aggressive. Swerving in and out of lanes is simply part of driving. If you aren’t honking your horn for people, bikes and other cars to get out of your way, then you are part of the problem and need to get out of someone else’s way! The traffic lights are strictly observed, but the painted lines on the road are optional at best. Traffic police are there to simply make sure traffic keeps flowing, so you can forget about enforcing anything.

Obviously, this kind of driving would cause many accidents in America. Yet, somehow, it works very well in China! I have yet to see a single accident in my time in the country! To be honest, it is very impressive!

As I’ve attended classes with Bethany, I’ve learned how grateful the University is to have native English speakers around. I’ve spoken in all of Bethany’s classes this week, made plans to speak in another teacher’s class, and also dropped into a third teacher’s classroom today and tomorrow! Not only does this give me quite a bit of exposure to the students, but also to the teachers as well. I personally think this is going to be crucial in developing relationships with the people here.

Assisting Bethany in class this week has been fun. I taken on my traditional role as the ridiculous, silly “Měiguó de” (American). As Bethany is teaching about different aspects of Halloween this week, I’ve been her sound box, making all the necessary sound effects as we come across the appropriate vocabulary words – howling, shrieking, cackling…. It’s been a lot of fun. We even played charades with the Halloween vocabulary. I went first with my werewolf impression to start the game off. If it can make me seem more lighthearted and approachable, it will be well worth it.

Living here certainly will have it’s challenges. Right now, we are limited to restaurants with pictures on their menus. Bethany discovered what bus will take us to the market, not by reading the Chinese bus schedule, but by walking there and seeing what buses pass by. Holding up fingers to represent quantities is crucial. Adapting to the Chinese standard of appliances and comfort is certainly shaping me. Learning the language is slow at best – if not stagnant at times. But all of these can be overcome. It’s just a matter of time.

So the goal right now is to get settled in and into a rhythm – a much needed part of my personality. This rhythm will help with building relationships, allow us to plan things out, and give me mental consistency. As for now, as I seek out the basic patterns for the needed rhythm, I’m simply enjoying the ride, even if that ride might be swerving through traffic.

Overwhelmed With Love

Have you ever been in a situation where an act of service kinda seemed small or unimportant, but the outcome meant so much to somebody? Yeah, I’m sitting on the tail end of the latter. Words are hard to describe where I am after what I experienced today.

I realized something was up when I started getting emails and phone calls from people regarding helping me get things done. I wasn’t aware of it at first, but my bride sent out an emergency email to our community of faith, and they responded. One gentleman (a Master Organizer) put together an event within our congregation to help me out in my packing and moving process – and boy did I need it! It wasn’t that I didn’t want help, it was more that I didn’t know HOW the help could help.

Several people came over after church and not only helped me organize what was still here, but this community of faith brought over food, helped sort, helped pack, helped sell! I never could imagine that so much could be done in so little time! Overwhelming! Absolutely overwhelming!

There’s a man in this congregation (he wasn’t part of this group) who I greatly respect and look up to. He’s a big fan of Mother Teresa. One of his favorite quotes from Mother Teresa says, “Not all of us can do great things. But we can all do small things with great love.”

That’s exactly what happened today! It was a small thing for many of them to come out here and partake in this endeavor. It was probably a small thing to drop off some food, or packing tape, or spend a few hours leading, or a few hours numbering bins, etc. But it was the amazing amount of love and generosity that was shown that blew me away.

I mean, I know these people. I know their loving hearts and kindness. That’s why I’m in community with them. But I’m not usually on this end of it! I’m usually the one serving right there with them.

This truly increases my understanding of how important it is to receive help and service and love if you are going to give it. This truth is something I’ve been working on for a few years. It’s always been easy for me to give of myself, but to receive help has always been difficult. But if God wants give a blessing through someone else, who am I tell Him, “No, that’s OK. I’ve got it.” How egotistical and selfish is that?!

During these last few days, I’ll be getting out of my apartment and moving in with a family from this same community of faith. I am excited to receive this blessing, and hope my gratitude can been conveyed well. There’s still a lot to do over the next couple of days to get out of here, but I’m so much closer now than I was this morning. And I’m more overwhelmed with love than I’ve been in a long time!

Moving Forward: This is really happening

As time continues marching on, the idea of being apart from Bethany is, in some ways, becoming more and more… normal.  Stateside, I’ve adapted my routine to accommodate the fact that she is in China.  We’ve got set times that we try to be online to communicate with each other, and we still send emails back and forth.  Part of it still feels surreal to me.   As if to say, “Are we REALLY going to do this?  Are we REALLY going to live in China for two years and serve the people there?”

That’s exactly what was going through my mind today as I purchased the plane ticket this morning.  As I’ve been shopping around the last several days, I noticed the prices starting to increase every morning.  So, eager to get a good deal, I made the decision.  But right before I clicked to confirm the purchase, I stopped and thought, “Wow!  Are we REALLY going to do this?  Yes!  Yes we are!” *Click!*

Now, granted, it’s a little late to be asking that question – Bethany’s been there for a week and a half, for crying out loud!  But, up until this point, I’m not sure it was truly “real” to me.

Don’t get me wrong – we’ve been preparing for this.  From filling out paperwork, to stressing over passports and visas, to packing things up and selling things off, to buying things specifically for the trip, to saying, “Goodbye” over and over, to putting in notices with the cellphone company, landlord, bank, and other important organizations….  We’ve been preparing!  But it was something about making that $1100+ one-way purchase that moved this experience forward from “surreal” to a state of “real” for me.  Apparently I couldn’t get that by putting my wife on a plane.  I couldn’t get that by packing things up and selling them off.  It took the commitment of a *click* for my brain to TRULY trigger “I am going!”

With a month and a half left Stateside, there is still much to do.  We still need to move Bethany into a permanent Visa.  I’m picking up her Official Transcript with her degree today to get that moving in the right direction.  At that point, it’ll be my turn to get a Visa.

Until then, we’ll continue this weird “normalcy” of communicating on twelve hour increments while apart from each other.  There is still much to be done, but we are moving forward.  One day at a time, we’re moving forward.

 

And So The Journey Begins!

Last Saturday, with myself, her parents, and a good friend who has already served several years in China, we saw Bethany off as she walked through the security line to board her plane.  Thirty six hours, and two layovers later, Bethany arrived at her destination in China to jump into her training with Amity!

It’s took about half a week, but we finally got a communication schedule down between the two of us.  Between poor Internet signals and hardware issues, it’s been a hard transition.  But we are making it.  One day at a time, but we are making it.

So now, when it comes to State-Side tasks, it’s up to me to get things taken care of.  This includes selling stuff off, packing things up, and finding places to store the few things we will be keeping.  Condensing my life down to nearly 100 pounds isn’t an easy task!

Thankfully, a local family has offered me usage of their spare bedroom for a few weeks so I can get out of the apartment sooner. Another family has graciously offered me usage of their spare car when I sell my own car.  It’s these kind of caring, giving hearts that will make this transition much easier.  Bethany and I are so grateful to be surrounded by such open and generous people!

I’m still working on raising the money for my plane ticket, and still looking for places to store our items while we are gone. But I haven’t given up, and know that – in due time – all of this will come together.  The packing has begun, and the selling-off has started.

I’ll get over there and join Bethany in our service to the Chinese people soon enough.  One step at a time. One day at a time. Either way, the Journey has begun!

Finishing Preparations

After several delays, some mis-communication, loads of paperwork, a bunch of packing, and many “Goodbyes,” Bethany is nearly ready to begin this epic journey.  Some shopping has been done, and much more will take place tonight and tomorrow.  But we are close.  She can take up to 100 lbs. of luggage, so we plan on maximizing that allotment.

One of the great things about these preparations, as hard as it may be, is the chance to spend some great time with our friends and family.  Between meals, movies, walks, talks, and games, we’ve had some great, intimate moments with friends and family that we’ll cherish for years to come!  What a great blessing these moments have been!

Bethany’s flight is scheduled to leave on Saturday. One neat aspect of this flight involves Bethany passing through Frankfurt, Germany.  She’s toying with the idea of getting a one day tourist visa to see the city during the massive layover. I’m excited for her – getting to see a great piece of Europe on the way to China should be awesome!

All total, after layovers and timezone transitions take place, her clock will say that it’ll be nearly 48 hours from the time she left Louisville as she arrives in China.  12 of those hours will be lost to time zone changes. Another 14 hours will be lost in various layovers inbetween flights, leaving 22 hours of actually flight time – that’s a long time to travel!

As we begin this great adventure, pray that Bethany’s flight goes well.  Pray that I am able to handle all the tasks associated w/ the getting us out of the apartment.  And pray that I receive the funding needed to join Bethany in China.